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I can’t believe she is
gone
It has been almost 3
months since I lost my best pal in the whole
wide world. I still look for her in her usual
places. I now sleep on her dog bed, which I
will not let my Mom wash because I can still
smell her. Grieving is a complex process with
several stages. I went through the first
stage which is denial. I realize she is not
coming back and although I do not understand how
she could have died so suddenly, I know she is
gone. The second stage is anger. I will
admit I took out some of my frustrations on the
other cats in the house. For the first week
after she was gone, I was kind of mean. The
third stage is sadness. This stage has been
the one I keep circling back to. I lay on my
Mom and Dad’s bed in the same spot she did and
even lay upside down like she did. I have tried
to replace her with my brother, Snoopy. I sleep
next to him like I did with her. I scent his
face like I did her. I follow him around like I
did her. Just when I think I am doing better the
sadness strikes again. The final stage is
acceptance. I am moving towards that stage.
My brother, Snoopy and I are becoming really
good pals. I know there will never be another
like her but I have started to open my heart to
new possibilities. There are not a lot of
support groups, OK that would be none, for
grieving cats but there are for humans that are
grieving the loss of a companion animal.
Sometimes just talking with another animal lover
can help. So just know it is normal to feel the
way you are feeling and everyone goes through
the stages differently. You too will be able to
move forward in time. To my special friend,
Daisy: I miss you. I will never forget you. I am
doing OK.
Love
Simba
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